Characters In Pakistani Dramas Zero Self Respect
Pakistani dramas, I hardly came across any such drama in which a lady is not madly in love or should I say highly obsessed with a guy and mostly the guy is her ‘cousin’. My question is that does love make you so worthless that you forget the meaning of rarely portrayed word nowadays called ‘self respect’? How come they never pay heed to the fact that getting married to the guy of your dreams is not the last thing to do on this planet? And mostly the person behind all these high expectations is the mother of the girl who can do anything to make her sister’s or brother’s son her son-in-law as if he is the only guy left on this planet who can marry her daughter, otherwise she’ll be left spinster. That is still bearable as long as they don’t start playing cheap tricks to get their purpose. We often see that the guy gets married to ‘not-the-choice-of-his-family’ and then the actual game begins where in laws particularly the mother never misses an opportunity to show the girl her right place. What a productive act to do! Never mind, what else can we expect from the least tolerant and jealous mother-in-law? This topic is done to death and still the favorite choice of makers since it gets high TRPs. There is a list of those dramas in which women are shown highly desperate, brushing their dignity under carpet and showcasing themselves despite getting rejected and knowing the zero interest level of the guy in them.
Sara in Humsafar:
Despite being a ‘Hit’ drama and the favorite of all, Humsafar does have some clichéd parts to its credit and i-e, a desperate girl day dreaming of the hero despite knowing that ‘Asher ne usko us nazar se kabhi nahin dekha’ LOL. Sara was educated, beautiful, had a sound background and above all had many proposals as highlighted in the drama but we found her screaming ‘Asher mera hai’, as if she bought him from the market.
Arzoo in Kankar:
Arzoo was once again a desperate girl after a good looking man. Sikandar told Arzoo again and again that he was not interested in her but No, she decided to get as desperate as anyone could get and didn’t pay heed to what he said. The woman behind this was her mother.
Jeena in Mann Mayal:
The flavor of the season, the favorite of all *coughing sarcasm* it’s none other than Mann Mayal. I doubt my level of intelligence when I find some people drooling over and praising this ‘master piece’. Jeena set the goals for all the desperate people out there, who want to but can’t do anything. She knew it clearly that Salahuddin was not interested in her at all but continued with her childish acts to impress him. Salahuddin on the other hand was shown a baby with a pacifier who couldn’t understand her intentions and could not give her a shut up call. We saw them getting engaged haphazardly and Jeena left no stone unturned to sustain that engagement despite knowing that Salahuddin was hopelessly in love with Mannu; a mother of three children. And the desperation goes on.
Mannu in Mann Mayal:
Mannu left her home in a filmy and dramatic way and stopped at the doorstep of Salahuddin. She was hopelessly in love with him and didn’t think about the reputation of her family and even her own self respect. What bothered me the most was the way in which all this was shown. They showed it in a very positive light that a girl being bold enough to run away like this but a cowardly guy who can’t take a step forward but this boldness is highly unacceptable in our society. We all know that how a ‘ghar se bhagi hui larki’ is treated after marriage. So what was the point in glamorizing all this.
Daniya in Bunty I Love You:
Daniya was shown a widow in her 30’s and she was highly obsessed with a guy who was of the same age, the age in which Daniya got married to an old fellow ‘Patel’. Bunty started living with Daniya, got everything through her, all the things he could only dream of before he met this lady. He had no feelings for her but Daniya continued to make efforts to get that guy and she paid heavy amounts to all the girl friends of Bunty who came in her way. We were shown that if you can’t make a guy fall in love with you then start buying all those girls who come in your way and don’t you ever care that you are a human and above all ‘a girl’ who can die but can’t stoop to that level.